There’s no doubt you need to be talkative around women to score, just being “really, really, ridiculously good looking” is not even close to enough to seal the deal…sorry all you introverts, it’s time to come out of your shells, because it’s true. But that’s not what this article is about; this article is about how you say what you say, rather than what you actually say.
This technique is mind-blowing in it’s effectiveness, and it’s one of those things that once you get it right a few times, not only will it come naturally from then on, but it will step up your game to a whole new level. That said, it can’t be used on every chick out there right out of the box. You can pretty much bet that if you’re talking to one of those chicks who considers themselves as “one of the guys,” it’ll be tough to pull off. Now don’t get me wrong, like a lot of techniques, it isn’t necessarily less effective on women who have a high initial resistance to it, it’s just more difficult to pull off correctly with those types of women.
So what the hell are we talking about anyway? We’re talking about strategically transitioning into using your “bedroom voice” with a woman you’re trying to nail. Now it doesn’t matter where you are or how long you’ve known this chick, if you can transition into using that bedroom voice, and do it correctly, she will go into heat right there in front of your eyes…and yes this is a beautiful thing.
When I say “bedroom voice,” I mean that voice you use when you just finished having sex with a chick and she’s lying there next to you and you’re talking to her in that half-asleep, half-playful tone. You know what I’m talking about. Anyway, you can use that exact tone with a chick at a bar and she’ll be begging you to take her home.
So why does this work? The answer’s simple and lies in the fact that chicks are generally single dimensional and for lack of a better word, dumb. You see, women operate and make decisions based on how they feel, not what is actually the rational, logical choice at the time, like men do. With this knowledge of a woman’s decision making process you can take advantage and reap the rewards. Put it this way, if you’re a dude and you’re out at a bar, and some chick suddenly starts talking very seductively to you, the first thought that goes through your head is, “Why the hell is this bitch talking like this?” The second thought is, “Do I really care as long as she takes off her clothes.” Now reverse the situation, you start talking confidently in your “bedroom voice” with a woman and, as long as you do it correctly, instead of her thinking, “What the hell is this guy talking like this for?” She won’t be thinking at all, she’ll be feeling, and you know what she’ll be feeling? She’ll be feeling like she’s incredibly comfortable, at ease and sexually attracted to you. Why? Because that’s how she normally feels when she hears that kind of talk.
This technique works especially well with subtle touching around the hips, or playfull physical contact.
Using this technique is like shooting fish in a barrel because you’ve made her feel like she’s already been intimate with you, even though she hasn’t. The logic that a man would use, in this situation would be something like, “I haven’t had sex with this chick yet, why is she using her bedroom voice?” That thought process is fleeting at worst and nonexistent at best. The question will not even permeate through the woman’s brain. Trust, that a thought like that is just an insignificant and passing idea that most women fail to process.
This point about women’s feelings and how they operate is incredibly important, but it’s a complete topic on it’s own, so we’ll delve into that further in other articles.
So How do You Transition to Using Your Bedroom Voice without it being Obvious, Awkward or even Creepy?
First of all, I want to make it clear that you can get away with a lot more than you think you can as far as transitions and things like that. As men, we’re constantly analyzing things from a logical perspective and so we recognize when the mood suddenly shifts, and it seems awkward, or at least obvious to us. Women don’t see that. That’s just how they work, I’ve gotten away with some of the most blatant and obvious transitions you’ve ever heard in your life with women, so stop overanalyzing your game in that way and go for it.
That said, you can’t ignore the transition altogether, as it does have to be done correctly, just not as perfect as you probably think. I think of my role as a man trying to get laid like this…
I’m a military scout…my job is to probe the enemy’s perimeter until I find an open entry point. I may spend an hour probing the perimeter at different points trying to find an access point. I may try to dig a tunnel on the west side, if that doesn’t work, I’ll try to cut through the barbed wire on the east side, that may not work either so then maybe I’ll see if I can’t just walk right in the front gate. All the while, I’m careful not to get too much attention of those bitches up in the guard towers with the spotlights and high powered rifles. If they see me, I’m toast. It may take 5 minutes, it may take an hour, but eventually I find a way in. Once I do, I send my whole Army sneaking in there until the enemy is so overwhelmed she has to surrender. And surrender she does.
Transitioning into bedroom speak is no different. Start out light, maybe tell her a joke, and to keep everyone from hearing you take your voice down a notch.
Be playful in your tone, posture yourself confidently and always end what you say with a smile.
If she doesn’t run for the hills, probe a little further and look her right in the eyes the whole time while you’re telling the joke. At this point, the joke is no longer a joke, but just some background noise against the intense feelings that start building inside of her. If you’ve gotten this far and she maintains eye contact, lean in a bit, then slowly take your facial expression from one that says, “Hi, I’m a douche bag and I’m here to tell you a stupid joke” to one that says, “Hi, I’m going to twist your emotions up into a wild ball of intense passion and make you feel like you never believed you could feel.” Now, that’s chick talk, that’s how you want her to feel. Interpreted in guy talk this means, “I’m going to do you, I’m really, really going to do you good.”
This technique is a tough one to get down right, but it’s one of the most powerful weapons in your repertoire as a player. Once you get it down, you’ll be doing it naturally with women. You’ll start noticing crazy things like 5 minutes into a conversation with a woman on the phone you’re both talking in your bedroom voices. You’ll get so good you’ll do it without even realizing it and you’ll be getting laid left and right because of it.