Keeping the mystery is incredibly easy in theory, but can be a difficult skill to master for any regular Joe and equally as hard to maintain as a seasoned pick up artist. As a man, I want to know and understand the answer to everything, I want to know the causation between different events in my life…and I’m not happy until I do. I’m analytical, I like to know how things work and what causes people to act a certain way. Women aren’t like that…not at all. Don’t ever let anyone convince you otherwise; women are drastically different from men in this respect. Women want mystery, they want to be kept on their feet at all times; they want to be kept guessing. To a woman, not knowing what will happen next is exciting; to a typical man, it feels like he’s not in control.

How to Keep the Mystery

So how does a guy go about keeping the mystery? Two ways. First, as often as possible, avoid doing what she expects. Talk to other women when you’re out with her, tell her you just want to be friends and then kiss her, tell her she’s not your type and get her phone number. This all seems crazy to a guy, but women eat this shit up all day long. A good pick up artist maintains a sense of mystery with attractive women he interacts with.

The second way to keep the mystery is to refrain from revealing everything about yourself too quickly. In fact, as a general rule of thumb, you should only reveal just enough information to take the relationship to the next level or to prevent her from feeling like you don’t care about her enough to “open up.” Don’t underestimate this…you may feel inclined to share information about yourself as a sort of “getting to know you” ritual…this is a mistake many men make, and it’s why a lot of men can’t pick up any chick they are interested in. I’ve had the sweetest, nicest, most innocent girl you’ve ever met, who’s also in a long term relationship, wanting to tear my clothes off before I’ve revealed an ounce of hard information about myself. The fact is, this kind of “getting to know you talk” is a comfort-building process, and a woman won’t care to build comfort with a man unless she’s already attracted to him, unless of course she wants to “just be friends”….whoa that phrase makes my spine tingle.

An Aside…The Importance of Feelings

I want to touch on this a bit more because most men think of a first date as sitting in a restaurant, asking questions about the other person and getting to know her. Let me just say that you should stop thinking about first dates like this immediately. The longer you continue to think of dating like this, the longer you will go without getting laid. You see, as men, we have one fatal flaw in our line of thinking that leads us to be baffled by women…we do things that make sense. It’s simple, but true…men are analytical and do things for a reason…this poses a problem because we tend to think everyone else (i.e. women) function the same way. That couldn’t be further from the truth. Women don’t do things because they make sense, women do things because they feel good. When you ask a woman about her ideal first date, she may describe activities and, as a man, this could lead you to confuse the reasons why such a date is her “ideal date.” But understand this… when a woman is describing her ideal date,

she’s describing activities that she thinks would give her a certain great feeling, not activities she just wants to do for one reason or another…

What even women themselves sometimes don’t understand is that if you can conjure up those same feelings in her just sitting on the couch, watching football, she’s going to think that was her ideal date. For a man, a great date is a culmination of certain activities, for a woman, a great date is a culmination of certain feelings. This difference is why women are such a damn mystery to most men.

With this in mind, you can see that it’s possible to make a woman feel like she’s in love with you without ever revealing much information about yourself at all. Instead, you just need to conjure up those same feelings inside of her that she gets when she’s with someone she’s in love with.